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  1. About Counselling and the Menopause

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    Whilst menopause is a totally natural life transition it can be a difficult time for many women

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    The physical changes and symptoms can be pervasive and disruptive. So often the timing is significant as it can coincide with the children growing up and possibly flying the nest so an element of re-evaluation of life, roles and routine can be mixed up with this change. For some the combination of their own hormonal changes can clash with teenage daughters or occur at times of heightened stress levels such as exam time when home life is already particularly fraught.

    Menopause signals the end of fertility, which can be a relief for some women if their periods have been problematic and for others it may herald more relaxed intimate relationships. However, even when a woman has thought her family complete, having the choice of further children removed can be unsettling and create difficult feelings around what it means to be a woman now that child -bearing is no longer a possibility. Early menopause brings its own set of issues as it can eliminate the chance of having further or any children and there may be additional illnesses associated with this early onset.

    The side-effects and symptoms of going through the menopause (being peri-menopausal) can have negative effects on health and well-being and relationships can also suffer. Many women have broken sleep with a knock-on effect for the partner and feeling tired and run down can heighten emotions and make life more difficult to cope with. Women can feel anxious, irritable, tired, and experience mood swings. Menopause can often cause a magnification of pre-existing problems and issues as energy is depleted, affecting coping mechanisms. There can be changes to sexual desire with some women experiencing physical symptoms that make sex painful or uncomfortable. Self-esteem can suffer, with the effects of medication, lack of sleep and thinning hair causing negative self -image.

    Fortunately, most symptoms can be overcome with medical or alternative therapies and there is a wide range of help available. However, even today, the menopause can be a difficult topic to raise and there may also be an expectation from Health Care Professionals that you just have to ‘get through it’.

    Alongside any medical help you access, counselling can assist by providing a non-judgmental environment in which to discuss and explore the difficult emotions that may be connected with the menopause. Some couples may also benefit from couples therapy at this time, which provides a platform from which to discuss the changes they are experiencing.

    Debbie Kelly MSc is an experienced counsellor working in Basingstoke in North Hampshire.  She sees clients experiencing life challenges concerning anxiety, depression, work stress, grief and bereavement, relationship difficulties and miscarriage/pregnancy loss.  

    Contact Debbie on 07590 572866 or email to arrange a free 20 minute introductory meeting.

  2. About Counselling and Depression

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    Many people experience low moods from time to time, but people suffering from depression can find it difficult to function in day to day life.

    Depression happens along a spectrum from mild to severe and can be of a chronic or long term nature, or acute with sudden onset.

    Common Symptoms of depression:

      • Disliking yourself or other people in general
      • Being preoccupied with negative thoughts, always seeing the worst in everything
      • Feeling irritable and intolerant
      • Lacking in energy and finding daily tasks an effort
      • Sleep disturbances, whether too much or too little
      • Altered appetite, eating too much or too little
      • Isolating yourself from others who would otherwise provide your support network
      • Tearfulness or shutting down of emotions

    Counselling can provide a space for you to express how you are feeling, helping you to identify coping strategies and ways to self-manage your symptoms. In cases of acute depression, there is often an underlying reason that can be explored in counselling, such as bereavement, loss of job or marital and family difficulties. Discussing these problems can alleviate the symptoms and make informed decisions clearer for you.

    In cases of severe depression, where your mood is very low, you may experience thoughts of self-harm. It is important to contact your doctor if this is the case as you may require medical treatment to alleviate your symptoms. Counselling can be used as a form of therapy along side medication from your doctor; it is important to discuss this with your doctor and counsellor for an effective collaborative approach.

     

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    Debbie Kelly MSc is an experienced counsellor working in Basingstoke in North Hampshire.  She sees clients experiencing life challenges concerning anxiety, depression, work stress, grief and bereavement, relationship difficulties and miscarriage/pregnancy loss. 

    Contact Debbie on 07590 572866 or email to arrange a free 20 minute introductory meeting.

    Break through Depression with Counselling in Basingstoke and Alton Hampshire