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  1. About Counselling and Anxiety Issues

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    Counselling for Anxiety in Basingstoke and Alton in HampshireA certain level of anxiety is a natural and healthy response to the stresses of everyday life. It allows us to focus and function positively in situations which may be outside of our normal comfort zone. It helps us to react appropriately to taxing situations, helping us to avoid high levels of risk or danger.

    However, when levels of anxiety become excessive the symptoms we experience can be unhelpful and have a negative impact on daily living. If anxiety causes us to react out of context and intensity to otherwise manageable situations it can stop us fully taking part in certain aspects of life.

    There are different types and levels of anxiety:

    • General anxiety (about many aspects of life)
    • Worry (continually thinking over a problem beyond helpful problem solving)
    • Specific anxiety (over certain situations, such as exams, social situations)
    • Phobias (excessive fear of particular situations leading to avoidance)
    • Hypochondria (anxiety about suffering from illnesses)
    • Panic attacks (sudden uncontrollable experience of symptoms of anxiety)

    Common symptoms of anxiety

    • Racing heart, dry mouth, rapid breathing, sweating, shaking, disturbed sleep (please contact your doctor to rule out any underlying health problems which may also cause these symptoms)
    • Tense muscles, increased fidgeting (fight or flight responses), headaches, general aches
    • Vivid visual imaginings of worse case scenarios, disturbing dreams

    Talking to a counsellor about your anxiety can help you become more objective about your fears and aware of how these symptoms affect you.

    Together we can then work out coping strategies to reduce the symptoms to a tolerable and liveable level. During counselling, the issues underlying your anxiety can be explored and that in itself can help to lessen the effects anxiety has on your day to day life.

    Debbie Kelly MSc is an experienced counsellor working in Basingstoke  in North Hampshire.  She sees clients experiencing life challenges concerning anxiety, depression, work stress, grief and bereavement, relationship difficulties and miscarriage/pregnancy loss. 

    Contact Debbie on 07590 572866 or email to arrange a free 20 minute introductory meeting.

  2. About Counselling and Grief and Bereavement

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    Grief and Bereavement Counselling in Basingtoke and Alton HampshireGrieving is a normal response to loss, whether it is loss of a loved one, loss of health, loss of a job or divorce.

    As a society however, we find it difficult to talk about death, dying and loss, which can make loss a silent and isolating experience. This can make the passage of grieving difficult, as it is human nature to want to tell our story, allowing us to incorporate our experience into our lives and continue our journey.

    It may be hard for family and friends to hear your story as they do not want you to be in pain and they may also be dealing with their own emotions. The passage of time can bring certain preconceptions that the grieving process should have ended. However, anniversaries, birthdays and family occasions can heighten our sense of loss and re-trigger the grieving process. It can seem as though family and friends have 'moved on' and expect the same from you.

    Counselling allows you the time and space to tell your story and be heard, to have someone alongside you who can bear your pain and is present for you alone. As a person-centred counsellor I will be independent from your experience but will not be distanced from you.

    I recognise the need for you to fully experience your grief by offering a safe and contained place for the exploration of all of your emotions, without judgment or preconceptions.

    The process of telling your story allows your loss to become integrated into your every day life, and for your loved one to be remembered and to remain part of your life, without the pain of your loss being unbearable.

     

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    Debbie Kelly MSc is an experienced counsellor working in Basingstoke in North Hampshire.  She sees clients experiencing life challenges concerning anxiety, depression, work stress, grief and bereavement, relationship difficulties and miscarriage/pregnancy loss. 

    Contact Debbie on 07590 572866 or email to arrange a free 20 minute introductory meeting.