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  1. About Counselling and the Menopause

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    Whilst menopause is a totally natural life transition it can be a difficult time for many women

    Falling Autumn Leaves

    The physical changes and symptoms can be pervasive and disruptive. So often the timing is significant as it can coincide with the children growing up and possibly flying the nest so an element of re-evaluation of life, roles and routine can be mixed up with this change. For some the combination of their own hormonal changes can clash with teenage daughters or occur at times of heightened stress levels such as exam time when home life is already particularly fraught.

    Menopause signals the end of fertility, which can be a relief for some women if their periods have been problematic and for others it may herald more relaxed intimate relationships. However, even when a woman has thought her family complete, having the choice of further children removed can be unsettling and create difficult feelings around what it means to be a woman now that child -bearing is no longer a possibility. Early menopause brings its own set of issues as it can eliminate the chance of having further or any children and there may be additional illnesses associated with this early onset.

    The side-effects and symptoms of going through the menopause (being peri-menopausal) can have negative effects on health and well-being and relationships can also suffer. Many women have broken sleep with a knock-on effect for the partner and feeling tired and run down can heighten emotions and make life more difficult to cope with. Women can feel anxious, irritable, tired, and experience mood swings. Menopause can often cause a magnification of pre-existing problems and issues as energy is depleted, affecting coping mechanisms. There can be changes to sexual desire with some women experiencing physical symptoms that make sex painful or uncomfortable. Self-esteem can suffer, with the effects of medication, lack of sleep and thinning hair causing negative self -image.

    Fortunately, most symptoms can be overcome with medical or alternative therapies and there is a wide range of help available. However, even today, the menopause can be a difficult topic to raise and there may also be an expectation from Health Care Professionals that you just have to ‘get through it’.

    Alongside any medical help you access, counselling can assist by providing a non-judgmental environment in which to discuss and explore the difficult emotions that may be connected with the menopause. Some couples may also benefit from couples therapy at this time, which provides a platform from which to discuss the changes they are experiencing.

    Debbie Kelly MSc is an experienced counsellor working in Basingstoke in North Hampshire.  She sees clients experiencing life challenges concerning anxiety, depression, work stress, grief and bereavement, relationship difficulties and miscarriage/pregnancy loss.  

    Contact Debbie on 07590 572866 or email to arrange a free 30 minute introductory session.

  2. About Counselling and Anxiety Issues

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    Counselling for Anxiety in Basingstoke and Alton in HampshireA certain level of anxiety is a natural and healthy response to the stresses of everyday life. It allows us to focus and function positively in situations which may be outside of our normal comfort zone. It helps us to react appropriately to taxing situations, helping us to avoid high levels of risk or danger.

    However, when levels of anxiety become excessive the symptoms we experience can be unhelpful and have a negative impact on daily living. If anxiety causes us to react out of context and intensity to otherwise manageable situations it can stop us fully taking part in certain aspects of life.

    There are different types and levels of anxiety:

    • General anxiety (about many aspects of life)
    • Worry (continually thinking over a problem beyond helpful problem solving)
    • Specific anxiety (over certain situations, such as exams, social situations)
    • Phobias (excessive fear of particular situations leading to avoidance)
    • Hypochondria (anxiety about suffering from illnesses)
    • Panic attacks (sudden uncontrollable experience of symptoms of anxiety)

    Common symptoms of anxiety

    • Racing heart, dry mouth, rapid breathing, sweating, shaking, disturbed sleep (please contact your doctor to rule out any underlying health problems which may also cause these symptoms)
    • Tense muscles, increased fidgeting (fight or flight responses), headaches, general aches
    • Vivid visual imaginings of worse case scenarios, disturbing dreams

    Talking to a counsellor about your anxiety can help you become more objective about your fears and aware of how these symptoms affect you.

    Together we can then work out coping strategies to reduce the symptoms to a tolerable and liveable level. During counselling, the issues underlying your anxiety can be explored and that in itself can help to lessen the effects anxiety has on your day to day life.

    Debbie Kelly MSc is an experienced counsellor working in Basingstoke  in North Hampshire.  She sees clients experiencing life challenges concerning anxiety, depression, work stress, grief and bereavement, relationship difficulties and miscarriage/pregnancy loss. 

    Contact Debbie on 07590 572866 or email to arrange a free 30 minute introductory session.